Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view
A Formula that Will Work Wonders for You
1. Only wise, tolerant, exceptional people even try to understand others instead of condemning them.
2. There is a reason why the other man thinks and acts the way he does.
3. Ferret out the reason – and you have the key to his actions, perhaps to his personality.
4. Try honestly to put yourself in his place
5. You will save yourself time and irritation, for “by becoming interested in the cause, we are less likely to dislike the effect.”
6. Stop a minute to contrast your keen interest in your own affairs with your mild concern about anything else.
7. Realize then that everybody else in the world feels the exact same way!
8. Success in dealing with people depends on a sympathetic grasp of the other persons’ viewpoint
9. It never occurred to him that she might want a compliment on her diligence
10. Cooperativeness in conversation is achieved when you show that you consider the other person’s ideas and feelings as important as your own.
11. “Getting Through to People” by Dr. Gerald S Nirenberg - Start your conversations by giving the other person the purpose or direction of your conversation, governing what you say by what you would want to hear if you were the listener, and accepting his or her viewpoint will encourage the listener to have an open mind to your ideas.
12. Seeing things through another person’s eyes may ease tensions when personal problems become overwhelming.
13. Tomorrow, before asking anyone to put out a fire or buy your product or contribute to your favorite charity, why not pause and close your eyes and try to think the whole thing through from another person’s point of view?
14. Ask yourself, “Why would he or she want to do it?”
15. This strategy will avoid making enemies and will get better results – and with less friction and less shoe leather.
16. “I would rather walk the sidewalk in front of a person’s office for two hours before an interview,” said Dean Donbarn of the Harward business school, “than step into that office without a perfectly clear idea of what I was going to say and what that person- from my knowledge of his or her interests and motives – was likely to answer.”
17. If you only get one thing from this study – an increased tendency to think always in terms of the other person’s point of view, and see things from that person’s angle as well as your own – it may easily prove to be one of the steppingstones of your career.
1. Only wise, tolerant, exceptional people even try to understand others instead of condemning them.
2. There is a reason why the other man thinks and acts the way he does.
3. Ferret out the reason – and you have the key to his actions, perhaps to his personality.
4. Try honestly to put yourself in his place
5. You will save yourself time and irritation, for “by becoming interested in the cause, we are less likely to dislike the effect.”
6. Stop a minute to contrast your keen interest in your own affairs with your mild concern about anything else.
7. Realize then that everybody else in the world feels the exact same way!
8. Success in dealing with people depends on a sympathetic grasp of the other persons’ viewpoint
9. It never occurred to him that she might want a compliment on her diligence
10. Cooperativeness in conversation is achieved when you show that you consider the other person’s ideas and feelings as important as your own.
11. “Getting Through to People” by Dr. Gerald S Nirenberg - Start your conversations by giving the other person the purpose or direction of your conversation, governing what you say by what you would want to hear if you were the listener, and accepting his or her viewpoint will encourage the listener to have an open mind to your ideas.
12. Seeing things through another person’s eyes may ease tensions when personal problems become overwhelming.
13. Tomorrow, before asking anyone to put out a fire or buy your product or contribute to your favorite charity, why not pause and close your eyes and try to think the whole thing through from another person’s point of view?
14. Ask yourself, “Why would he or she want to do it?”
15. This strategy will avoid making enemies and will get better results – and with less friction and less shoe leather.
16. “I would rather walk the sidewalk in front of a person’s office for two hours before an interview,” said Dean Donbarn of the Harward business school, “than step into that office without a perfectly clear idea of what I was going to say and what that person- from my knowledge of his or her interests and motives – was likely to answer.”
17. If you only get one thing from this study – an increased tendency to think always in terms of the other person’s point of view, and see things from that person’s angle as well as your own – it may easily prove to be one of the steppingstones of your career.
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